What were we thinking?!?

Khoa's been home 8 months and seems to be doing pretty well. So we had this great idea that it was time for Khoa to start Pre-K. We found a pre-school that is willing to work with me on what mornings he goes to school. Since I work on Monday's and Thursday's I would just as soon have him in school on those two mornings so that I don't have to be away from him on the mornings that I don't work. The only day that he will have school that I don't work is on Tuesday. I can live with that. Gives me a few hours all by myself. Anyway, school started this last Thursday. Rob took off work and we both took Khoa to his first day of pre-school and then I went on to work. He did fantastic....except for one "minor" detail. It's been a while since I've had a kid in preschool and when they said they require the kids to be potty trained, I thought "no biggie". Wrong! Here's where the "minor" detail comes in. Khoa doesn't know how to wipe his little hiney after he's pooped. Guess what? ...he had to poop and when he was done, he hollered for the teacher. Guess what? ....the pre-school teachers do not help the kids wipe (don't blame them). Period! I guess after several minutes of the teacher trying to get Khoa to wipe his own behind and Khoa crying that he couldn't do it by "hisssself" the teacher finally helped him (bless her) and then called Daddy to let him know that Khoa needed to learn that little skill as soon as possible. After Daddy picked him up from school they came to my work to take me to lunch. I was so excited to hear about his morning at school. I asked Khoa if he had a good time and he said, "No.!" "Khoa no go poopy by hisssself. I quied." I felt AWFUL!!! The poor kid has been scarred for life. Well, he had several "opportunities" to practice wiping by himself this last weekend, with much success. I thought that he would do just fine this morning when I dropped him off. Wrong again!!! He kept saying that he didn't want to go to school and that he wanted to go to work with me. I stayed in the class for a few minutes and we couldn't get his attention off of me leaving. Sooooo, his wonderful and patient teacher pried him off of me as he was screaming and crying at the top of his lungs. It was heartbreaking to say the least. As I walked out of the building I looked back and all of the other little kids were sitting in a circle holding their hands over their ears because Khoa was screaming so loudly. I cried all the way to work. I called the school about 10 minutes later and the teacher said that his monkey had saved the day. She got it out of his back pack (she's goood!!)and gave it to him and he decided that he could handle the morning after all. He didn't have to poop today at school, which I think was probably a good thing. He's already saying he's not going to school tomorrow. Oh Joy! I just wonder if his morning would have been different if I he hadn't had the "hiney wipe" problem on Thursday. When I talk to him about the fact that he has been able to wipe himself several times with no problems, he responds that he can wipe at "Mommy's house" and "Gwandpa's house" and at "Church", but not at school.

So what do you think? I hope we are not doing the wrong thing by making him go to pre-K. If he was a child that we had raised since birth, I wouldn't be questioning our decision, but the fact is, this precious child has only known what a family is for 8 months. Maybe I'm pushing him too much. But, if we don't make him go to pre-K now that he's been a few times, are we making matters worse in the long run? Geeze Louise what's a Mommy and Daddy to do!?!

I have a few pictures of Khoa's first day that I will post, but I can't do it right now. I took them with our daughters camera and I don't know where the thingy is to plug into the camera to up-load them to the computer.